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Being Dad May Be Tougher These Days, but Working
Moms are among Their Biggest Fans
By Kim Parker, Senior Researcher,
Pew Research Center for the People & the Press
 June
13, 2007 - No one can argue with the fact that today's fathers are more
"hands on" with their kids than fathers were a generation or two ago.
With so many dual income families, fathers often have to share the
workload of childrearing and household chores. So how are fathers faring
in this brave new world of changing diapers and driving carpools?
The verdict is mixed on how well today's dads
measure up -- about half of the public says they're doing a worse job
when compared with fathers a generation ago; the other half says they're
doing as well or even better.
A broad consensus holds that it is harder to be a
father now than it was 20 or 30 years ago, and on this point men and
women agree. Fully 59% of men and 62% of women say today's dads have a
tougher time of it.
Only 12% of the public says it easier to be a dad
today, while roughly a quarter say it's about the same as it was a
generation ago. People generally feel the same about motherhood.
Seven-in-ten adults say it's harder to be a mom today than it was in the
past, and only 11% see it as easier.
 Interestingly
enough, when it comes to evaluating today's fathers, dads' harshest
critics turn out not to be women, but men.
For example, on the question of how good a job
fathers are doing raising their kids, women actually have a more
benevolent view. A majority (56%) of women say today's dads are doing as
good a job or a better job raising their kids compared with fathers a
generation ago, while four-in-ten say they are doing a worse job.
Men, however, take a more critical view: Only 41%
of men say today's dads match or better the performance of the dads of
the 1970s and '80s, compared with a majority (55%) who say today's dads
are doing a worse job.
 Notable
among the biggest fans of today's dads is a group of women who may well
be the best qualified to evaluate them: working moms. They're married to
these men after all, and they function at the epicenter of the busy
households where modern dads must pitch in at every turn.
Fully 72% of married moms who work at least
part-time and are raising young children say dads are now doing as good
a job or better than their counterparts did a generation ago; only 26%
say they're falling short.
Mom's Still the Family Lynchpin
Dads may be working harder at home and getting more
involved in their kids' lives these days, but we won't know for another
20 to 30 years, when today's children are fully grown, whether their
fathers have succeeded in knocking their mothers off the top of the
family pedestal.
Surveys of adult children show that mom, not dad,
is the parent that they feel closest to and the person they turn to for
advice. In a 2005 Pew Research Center survey, 61% of adults with both
parents still living said they have the most contact with their mother.
Only 18% said they have the most contact with their father.
 In
that same survey, respondents were more than twice as likely to say they
would turn to their mom in times of crisis (17%) as opposed to their dad
(6%). And while 87% said they are close to their mother, fewer (74%)
said the same about their relationship with their father. In this
regard, dads rank below the family pet: On average, dog and cat owners
feel closer to their pets than adult children feel to their fathers.
Still, this may be okay with dads, simply because
their relationship with their kids is less central to their own
happiness than it is for moms. Many wives might be surprised to know
that when asked about the most important aspect of their personal
happiness and fulfillment, men are more likely to point to their
relationship with their wife than their relationship with their kids.
Just the opposite is true for women. They place
more value on their relationship with their kids than they do on their
relationship with their husband.
Source: Pew Research Center for the People & the
Press
The Pew Research Center for the People and the
Press is one of six projects that make up the
The Pew Research Center. The Center is supported by
The Pew Charitable Trusts.
Website:
http://people-press.org/
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